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18th July 10
Boys to…boys I have grown up around really decent male figures. My Dad has always believed in equality between the sexes and because of this does not mind cooking or even cleaning. Both him and my step mom balance the running of the household and both hold down careers. Both of my brothers have been raised under my Dad’s ideals and the older one (one is seven so you have to give him a break) can cook up a meal that would impress many a chef, iron a shirt, sew on a button, and make his own bed. My male friends and boyfriend are similar. They all seem to have progressed to the 21 century and a world that isn’t the dutiful wife serving them beer and dinner in front of the TV at the end of the day. For these reasons TV shows such as Family Guy and the Simpsons annoy me. Watching the super efficient wife run around her (usually overweight), desperately incompetent husband strike me as unfair to the male race. They aren’t all that bad. Yet… men such as Homer Simspon and Peter Griffin exist. These are the men that expect not just women, but the world in general, to bend over backwards for them. I know I don’t usually rant in my blogs but I’ve been a bit dry on material lately and this seems like a perfect time. I’ve had the joy of actually meeting one of these men recently. I guess it’s come as a bit of a shock to the system after living with people like Dad, my brothers and interacting with my other male friends. It horrifies that there are still men out there, 24 year olds (purely a hypothetical number) who still can’t cook. Not only can they not cook but they demand others to do it for them and expect them to clean up after them. This selfish attitude attitude appalls and disgusts me. If you are 24 and cannot even make yourself a sandwich you have a problem. If you are 24 and can’t pick up a dish cloth you have a problem. If you are 24 and expect your family, your friends and hey, even your brother’s girlfriend to hold your life together then you need to grow up. You aren’t  a man, you are a boy. Even that might be too much credit. So who do we blame for these adult children? The parents for pandering to them and letting them get away with this attitude? They are certainly part of the problem. How about the TV shows that condone this behavior? Or maybe it’s Facebook groups like http://www.facebook.com/group.php?gid=2228646367 This isn’t a sexist rant. It’s a belief that this minority of men are giving men in general a bad name. I have girlfriends (straight and otherwise) who have given up on men and can spend hours rolling their eyes and complaining about how useless they are. I can understand that. They’ve probably had to deal with a man child and all I can hope is that they meet some of the better men out there. I’m not sure there’s a solution to these attitudes because once you hit your twenties that sort of selfish behavior is hard to break. My solution, from now on, is to stay far away from them.

Boys to…boys

I have grown up around really decent male figures. My Dad has always believed in equality between the sexes and because of this does not mind cooking or even cleaning. Both him and my step mom balance the running of the household and both hold down careers.

Both of my brothers have been raised under my Dad’s ideals and the older one (one is seven so you have to give him a break) can cook up a meal that would impress many a chef, iron a shirt, sew on a button, and make his own bed.

My male friends and boyfriend are similar. They all seem to have progressed to the 21 century and a world that isn’t the dutiful wife serving them beer and dinner in front of the TV at the end of the day.

For these reasons TV shows such as Family Guy and the Simpsons annoy me. Watching the super efficient wife run around her (usually overweight), desperately incompetent husband strike me as unfair to the male race. They aren’t all that bad.

Yet… men such as Homer Simspon and Peter Griffin exist. These are the men that expect not just women, but the world in general, to bend over backwards for them. I know I don’t usually rant in my blogs but I’ve been a bit dry on material lately and this seems like a perfect time. I’ve had the joy of actually meeting one of these men recently.

I guess it’s come as a bit of a shock to the system after living with people like Dad, my brothers and interacting with my other male friends. It horrifies that there are still men out there, 24 year olds (purely a hypothetical number) who still can’t cook. Not only can they not cook but they demand others to do it for them and expect them to clean up after them. This selfish attitude attitude appalls and disgusts me. If you are 24 and cannot even make yourself a sandwich you have a problem. If you are 24 and can’t pick up a dish cloth you have a problem. If you are 24 and expect your family, your friends and hey, even your brother’s girlfriend to hold your life together then you need to grow up. You aren’t  a man, you are a boy. Even that might be too much credit.

So who do we blame for these adult children? The parents for pandering to them and letting them get away with this attitude? They are certainly part of the problem. How about the TV shows that condone this behavior? Or maybe it’s Facebook groups like http://www.facebook.com/group.php?gid=2228646367

This isn’t a sexist rant. It’s a belief that this minority of men are giving men in general a bad name. I have girlfriends (straight and otherwise) who have given up on men and can spend hours rolling their eyes and complaining about how useless they are. I can understand that. They’ve probably had to deal with a man child and all I can hope is that they meet some of the better men out there.

I’m not sure there’s a solution to these attitudes because once you hit your twenties that sort of selfish behavior is hard to break. My solution, from now on, is to stay far away from them.